‘My ex-partner spied on my every step by hacking my email – but I caught him and escaped’

Jenny* For years, when a former partner came to meet him, he always thought it was strange that he always appeared at the front door of his house.

He had survived the malicious relationship, but he managed to remain present when he met or who met with.

He lives in a small village and still lives nearby, he realized that people hit each other – but almost every day?

Im I went crazy, ”he said. “When people came to visit me, he would be there, he would ask them ‘you see him’, ‘what are you doing’. I didn’t understand that, how could I know? Then he suddenly clicked.”

For two years, Jenny was unaware that he wasn’t the only person using his E -Post account.

With Access, he had an old partner to watch and follow and harass every move he used for a job they had shared for a job.

He even imitated it by sending e -mail to others, and usually by sending rough messages to the family and friends.

“Every part of my life was under his control,” he said 62 -year -old. Im I thought I had abandoned the control relationship, but if something happened, he accelerated my obsession, and I didn’t even realize that he was doing it.

“I caught him by sending him a test e -mail to a friend, I caught him by saying that I would escape. I certainly went to the monkey and then I knew.

The old couple had been together for 10 years.

He was upset because of the loss of a close person, and with attraction and kindness, he moved to his home soon before promising a new start with the opening of a work in a rural village.

However, in a year, he controlled his family, friendship and financing – and in the following years, the relationship became abusive. Ten years later, Jenny boldly ended the relationship and forced his old partner to go out.

However, only a few streets moved away and the compelling behavior worsened.

Im I started to realize moving around the house, Jenny Jenny said. “The booking book for the job would disappear, then it would come out again. Things like pots would take action. I thought I would be crazy, but in my house broke. It was a classic gas light.

“He continued for about a year until he loaded CCTV – but he was still able to watch everything. He was able to access the e -mail I used for the job. He knew every move I made and was everywhere. He listened.”

Jenny said he was looking for the police on numerous occasions, but he said he wouldn’t cause anything every time. He even presented a diary with a three -year proof of follow -up, but he said that the power was not interested.

Only three years after the end of their relationship, he was able to sell the work and the house and moved to a secret place, and his friends and his family stayed behind and his life started again, he was still worried that he was still watching him.

Orum I still see nightmares, Jenny Jenny said. “He was traumatic and the effect remains with you. It is not easier, to come to a new place, to make friends. But what I have to do is, I was completely disappointed by the police.”

Control or compelling behavior became a criminal offense under the 2015 serious crime law, and then changed to include the victims who did not live with the guilty or former partners four years ago – after reporting the abuse to the police.

According to police data, there was 49,268 challenging control offense recorded An increase by 44,538 years ago by the forces in England and Wales in the year ending in March 2025.

However, someone is unlikely to be accused of a report. A BBC investigation this year clarified Seven percent of the reports of challenging behavior police for Surrey police led to the accusation of someone.

Jenny said: “Cases can be complicated and may take time to solve, so I’m afraid of frequently.

But Jenny received some support. He received advice from Aberystwyth University project. Dewis Choice, The first special service for elderly people suffering from domestic abuse.

The organ has recently published a guide to deal with the technological threat of criminals, and the organization wants to emphasize the situations in which elderly abuse victims have been exposed to.

Dewis Choice Project’s co -leader Rebecca Zerk said: “As more services change online, increasing number of elderly people trust family members or caregivers to manage digital tasks on their behalf.

“Without direct control over online accounts, older adults may have a high risk of exploitation by the closest people.”

Acc Claire Bell, Deputy Director of Violence Against National Women and Girls, described the challenging and control behavior as a “insidious crime ve and often remained isolated and vulnerable that the victims were trapped.

He said that “vital” civil servants knew the risks and used a professional curiosity to look beyond the emergency in front of them.

The unit helped civil servants to determine and respond to them by providing the training and domestic use risk assessment tool.

“We have made progress in the way the police define and respond to the compelling or control behaviors;

A spokesman for the Ministry of Interior said that the government has committed violence against women and girls in ten years, and that more than 80 percent of the police forces in England and Wales received a compelling and expert training in recognizing control behaviors.

“Every victim of compelling or control behavior deserves to be safe, supported and confident in notifying the police to the police.

The police force investigating Jenny’s case, said the investigation was closed after the review of the evidence found that there was no realistic conviction expectation.

A spokesman for force Independent Jenny is not named to preserve the anonymity, “As a police force, we are determined to work for domestic abuse, follow -up and elimination of harassment.

“Therefore, our officers investigated every report made by the complainant in this case and gave concrete protection measures and recommendations throughout the process.”

Last year, nationwide and shelter Independent Brick by Brick Campair, who created a house for the second purpose for women who escaped from domestic abuse.

National Domestic Abuse Help Line, 0808 2000 247 offers or visit women. Refuge Website. Dedicated Men’s recommendation line 0808 8010 327

* The name of the victim has been changed to protect his identity