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People Are Sharing Subtle Signs That A Man Is Red-Pilled, So Here Are The 18 Red Flags You Need To Look Out For
We recently he asked members BuzzFeed Community Sharing subtle signs that a man is red-haired. Here’s what they said:
If you’re not familiar with the term “red-furred,” it’s to mention to men in the manosphere (internet spaces that promote male supremacy and traditional gender roles). Basically, “men”red furry“He believes that men are disadvantaged and that the oppression of women is unreal. This results in misogynistic ideology and behavior.
1. “The fact that they don’t consume art made by women is a big red flag. If they don’t listen to female musicians or read female authors, that’s a sign that they don’t respect women in general.”
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2. “When a man complains that he can never have a relationship and then says, ‘Only 10% of women are attracted to 80% of men!’ Saying nonsense things like this is a sign that a man is blushing. or ‘75% of women have ridiculous standards and don’t like nice men anymore!’ “Men honestly believe in the politics of numbers, because it’s much easier to use ‘logic’ to blame a woman than to admit that the man is probably just an asshole.”
—Anonymous, 19, Ohio
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3. “When any male says the words ‘alpha,’ ‘beta,’ and/or ‘sigma,’ it’s a red flag.”
—Anonymous, 37, Male, California
4. “When a man uses the phrase ‘real men’ it’s a sign he’s painted red.”
-Anonymous
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5. “One sign of this is that men don’t have a casual negative opinion of female celebrities, but they hate famous women fiercely. The one I have to mention is Taylor Swift. I’ve seen grown men throw whining fits like toddlers when I’m told I’ve seen the Eras Tour. And when I say I’m going on a girls’ trip to Europe for this? Emotional burnout.”
—Anonymous, 40
6. “A sign of this is that they often have an ‘all women’ mentality to put the blame on women. They talk about how they couldn’t get a date, and it’s always the woman’s fault.”
-Anonymous
7. “A sign of this is when a man says, ‘If we get married, you won’t have to work anymore.'”
—Anonymous, 36, F, Michigan
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8. “One indicator is if he only talks to you about the future in the context of having children.”
—Anonymous, 34, F, Toronto, Ontario
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9. “The sign a man is blushing is when he believes Andrew Tate is more than a piece of trash. When they say Andrew Tate’s treatment of women is understandable, that’s a red flag because ‘This is what happens when a man gets rejected too many times.'”
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10. “One sign of this is that they have an almost constant victim or persecution complex, which often results in them blaming their own failures on others and using this to claim a giant conspiracy against men.”
—Anonymous, 47, Male, Iowa
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11. “A sign of this is if they don’t take ‘No’ for an answer when they ask you out. One way to do this is to offer an alternative date idea rather than admitting you’re not interested.”
—Anonymous, 33, F, USA
12. “One subtle sign when dating is that they present themselves in terms of value (because they’ve been told they think women care about that). I once dated a guy who, even though he was living with his parents to care for them as they got older, forgot about the fact that their home would be a great asset for his future wife after they died. The same guy described his job to me in terms of disposable income and expected me to get excited about having access to $XX more a month if we were serious. An early sign because we later took a break after he went awkwardly silent during a discussion about the show.” Puberty and later admitted that men had accepted that they were persecuted by women who rejected them. In the beginning it was all there, just subtle and hidden.”
—Anonymous, 43, Female, Georgia
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13. “One indicator is to ask a woman, ‘What do you bring to the table?’ ” they ask.
—Anonymous, 37, Female, London
14. “One sign of this is if a man leans too heavily into diet culture, which emphasizes eating only protein and ‘pure’ foods. There’s nothing wrong with paying attention to what you eat, but a fully balanced diet includes good fiber intake, vegetables, fruits, etc. High-protein-only diets are indicative of a bit of a dabbling in the manosphere. Huge red flag.”
—Anonymous, 27, Male, NYC
15. “The red pill indicator is that they call women ‘women’ instead of women!”
—Anonymous, 38, F, Canada
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16. “One sign of this is how they react when gender conversations come up. I go to a large university in the Midwest. The university tends to be more liberal-leaning; however, its location in a red state makes it a mix of different political views. Since I studied to be a teacher, some of our classes involved learning how to teach a diverse group of students, whether they were immigrants, ELLs, or people with disabilities. One of the things that came up in multiple classes was gender and how to make sure your classroom is open and comfortable for everyone. I would always look around and see some of my male classmates either asking the professor I would see them squint their eyes or leave the class for the rest of the class.”
—Anonymous, 22, F
17. “One indicator of this is that they make oddly timed and inappropriate remarks about gender norms. This often takes the form of small jokes or insinuations. When others disagree, the man in question tends to get angry or frustrated.”
-Anonymous
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18. “It’s a red flag if they get upset or angry when they see a woman who exists outside of a default gender role or business occupation. A woman who works in construction, STEM, automotive, etc. A woman who wears more masculine clothing, or a woman who plays a contact sport. This tells me that she doesn’t have much to no respect for women. She only sees them as existing in one role.”
-Anonymous
19. And finally, “One sign of red-haired men is that they assume a woman is less passionate or knowledgeable about their interests or is interested in them for the ‘wrong reasons.’ This is especially common in geek-related subcultures like gaming. Otherwise, the seemingly nice guys completely turn on me when they find out I’m a gamer because they think I’m inherently worse at the hobby or using it to get men. No, man, I’ve been gaming since I was a kid, just like you. You’re just a misogynist.”
—Anonymous, 20, F, United States
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