how three different dads navigated miscarriage, IVF, stillbirth and divorce on their path to parenthood

Any grief, whether you lose someone at the age of 80 or at birth, feels that the world is over. Jordy was stressed twice after losing Poppy, but being happy and healthy here helped to repair our hearts. We still have moments of sadness, but it brought very joy.

This year, Father’s Day will be about to celebrate both daughters: enjoy the day with Rosie and keep Poppy on our own way. For now, we get this precious time with Rosie before considering adding to our family. I can’t wait for all the adventures to be next. “

“It was a long, difficult journey”: Takaya Honda, 38, actor

“It was a long journey for us to have Ari. He was an IVF baby. My wife Amy and I tried for about two years before we found out that we would need IVF to conceive.

It was a long, difficult journey especially for all hormones for Amy and mental fatigue that came with it. During this time, a lot collided at once: my mother passed away and I finished acting Neighbors. So he’s our little miracle baby. We were very happy because we finally became pregnant and then was born in January this year.

We prepared all these girls’ names. Then we learned that he had a son, and we both learned that it was surprisingly difficult to find a name we love. We wanted something unique, but very unique, grounded but not strong. We ended with Ari Zen, and from the beginning, I joked by the nature of Zen and Zen.

It was a long, difficult journey especially for all hormones for Amy and mental fatigue that came with it.

Takaya Honda, actor

I’ve always experienced kinship with children. My family was gymnastics coaches, so I grew up around the kids. I don’t approach children when I am at a party, but at the end of the day, they all hang on with me. Having my own child is now putting it into full -time practice. I cannot expect him to discover all his desires and desires and to start talking to help us become the best person to be.

Super benign, just hungry or excessively crying. We missed the whole witch watch. He always smiles, very awake and curious, happy to embrace anyone. It is light for his age but 97. There is a head circumference in the pendant, I hope all the brains [laughs]!

This year, Father’s Day will be low key. On Friday, a friend in France is back from the wedding, my birthday on Saturday, then on Sunday, Father’s Day, so there will be a little jet delay. Probably a peaceful day, absolutely exquisite food. Ari began to solidify and seems to love his food like us.

I didn’t understand unconditional love until he had it. It exceeded my expectations. I never get bored of looking at him, playing with him, smiling or giggling. Every challenge feels easy compared to what you need to bring it here. “

“Being a father helps to keep me young again”: Shane Nicholson, 49, Musician

“I have a son Arlo, 17 years old, a daughter, a poet, 13 years old and my step -son Talon, 22 [with my ex-wife, musician Kasey Chambers]. And then there is Jude who will return in three.

Just me [older kids] I didn’t have to wake up on the stage where they could have their own breakfast and in the morning; I thought I was going to end. But my wife Emma had no children, and that was something she wanted to do. I said, ‘Yes, okay, there will be one more.’

I started again, the whole cheerful, the only difference is that I am a little older. I don’t go back from sleepless nights like years ago, but I love him. They say that children keep you young; Half of this is true. The other half is now that it makes you feel old, because I’m really tired. But bright. I forgot how difficult it was and how surprising it is.

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Now there is much more information about parenting, just things that appear in your Instagram Feed. I remember ‘controlled cry’ with my daughter and I think it’s the best way to do it. Now we will never entertain the idea. This is a benefit of time. I am also aware that it is currently getting stock, being now and knowing that it is definitely the last time. I want to take advantage of this in the best way.

For years, my ex -wife and I lived in the same suburban, so the children always came back and forth. We have never made custody arrangements, just a clear dialogue. Even after Jude was born, Kasey would take care of the baby once a week. People would meet me and say, ‘I met your child at Kasey’s house last week’. We normally presented the situation to children, so it is.

Grand children like to be a little brother. They are never annoying them. Jude really brought together all the different fractions of the family. It was a little glue. Even the grandmother and grandfather in Queensland, NSW and Victoria are more connected to her.

Father’s Day, like birthdays, is always subject to everyone’s calendar. A Melbourne Father’s Day and Sydney Father’s Day. That’s how it works in our crazy world, but it works for us. “

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