Good communicators ‘have a tolerance for discomfort’

Brené Brown’s ninth book “Strong Ground: Brave Leadership Lessons, Paradox Reduction and Wisdom of Human Spirit” was published last month.

Houston University research professorPodcaster and the best -selling writers have recently gone to the Podcast of the New York Times “Report“Discuss the various themes of the book, such as brave leadership and discipline.

In the communication theme, journalist Lulu Garcia-Navarro asked a clear question: “Why do you think we’re sucking it?

“We don’t teach people how to communicate well,” Brown replied.

“Good communication is vulnerable,” he said. “Difficult. If you want to communicate well and honestly, you must have discomfort tolerance. And at every level of an organization, in a family. It doesn’t matter.”

“Using the right words to be open and define what we want to do, what we mean, and what we need,” effective communication. It is about calling someone instead of making a message.

Ton Ton disappears in the text, Brown Brown said.

And when you say something that upset someone, it is about getting accountable. “I think nobody taught how to do it,” he said.

Experts acknowledge that we can learn to communicate better. Since it is related to receiving accountability, it can be difficult to keep cool, especially during a difficult conversation. When the conflicts occur, Expressions.

• ‘In this case, it seems like the most important thing for you…’ This is a sentence career coach Foebe Gavin He recommends using it to CNBC before. Interpreting the main point of someone’s argument helps to show that you are listening.

• ‘It makes sense to feel like this,’ Alison Wood BrooksBusiness Associate Professor in Harvard Business School, Make It It Previously. This expression helps you to lead with empathy If the person you are talking about looks especially sad.

• ‘I want to make sure I understand,’ It recommends more than one expert. In the conflict, it is very important to verify the emotions and perspectives of the other person. This expression helps you to do so.

Try to keep these statements in mind while making a difficult speech. “I think communication hasn’t been more important than it right now,” Brown said.

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