Man Says Woman He’s Dating Accused Him of ‘Spoiling Christmas’ Because He Refused to Dress Up as Santa for Her Kids

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• A man says a woman he was “casually dating” asked him to dress up as Santa Claus for her children this Christmas

• He said he refused and she now looks ‘sad and angry’

• The man detailed his story on a popular Reddit forum; Commentators here weighed in on the tense situation

A man says a woman he was dating blamed him ruining christmas Because he won’t dress up as Santa Claus for his kids.

The 29-year-old detailed her story on the popular Reddit forum “Am I A——–?” a place where people can go to get opinions on interpersonal dilemmas. In the post, the man explained that he had been “casually seeing” a 28-year-old woman with three young sons for about three months.

He said that he had recently made a special request to him regarding the holiday.

“A few days ago he told me he wanted it. dressing up as santa claus For their children for Christmas. “I told him I would think about it but I wasn’t comfortable doing it,” he said.

The original poster (OP) said he was a “big guy” and had been asked to be Santa for the holidays since he was in high school, only “because I’m the fat guy with the beard.” He also said he was “nervous” about the request on a “deeper level” because he felt the woman was “putting him into the parental role too quickly,” as he had previously stated: “hard” borders As for their children.

Therefore, the man said during a recent phone conversation that he decided to officially reject the request, and the woman was not happy about it.

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“He sounded sad and angry and accused me of ‘ruining Christmas,'” she said. “I told him I was trying to avoid being spoiled next year because kids latch on to things like that and come to expect it, and I’ve been doing it ever since.” we are not togetherWho knows if we’ll still see each other [then].”

“So AITA [am I the a——] “Is it because I don’t want to play Santa Claus for the children of a woman I’m not officially dating?” he asked at the end of his article.

Some commenters said they thought the OP had the right to refuse and even suggested that the woman he was seeing was displaying certain things. potential red flags.

“NTA [not the a——]One person added: “It makes me sad whenever I see a post that makes it clear that someone is pressuring someone to do something they don’t want to do or manipulating them to set boundaries.”

They continued, “This isn’t healthy and this early. You don’t have to put up with manipulation. You deserved to have her say ‘I totally understand’ and have a healthy, happy conversation… The fact that she feels so comfortable while you feel so uncomfortable is a big red flag.”

Others said they thought the OP and the woman seemed fundamentally incompatible.

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“You shouldn’t date this woman. She’s looking for a man willing to be a father figure to her children. You’re wasting her time,” one person said.

Another added: “You are not compatible with this person and I don’t think you should pretend otherwise. I don’t want to deal with children (and that’s totally okay) you shouldn’t be with him.

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