Strictly winner Ore Oduba opens up on addiction and the implosion of his marriage – and how his sister’s tragic suicide turned his life around

Cevher Obuba had the world’s feet after making a waltz with a glittering cup dancing tightly in the most watched finals of the program.

More than 13 million audiences were fascinated by the showmenlik qualities of Ouba because he won victory with his dance partner Joanne Clift in 2016.

The 39 -year -old Obuba was known as the best child TV presenter until that point.

Certainly his success will be a launching ramp for a comprehensive career, which is shown in West End, including acting and radio presentation and radio presentation as an artist.

Happily married, two of his father seemed to have everything. Nevertheless, after the spotlight was pushed into the light, they were not all pink behind the scenes.

Obuba opened how he struggled with his family life during locking and ended his nine -year marriage with his last October 35 -year -old TV researcher’s wife Portia.

Recently, how he started to come out of his secret turmoil and his life out of control, he said, ‘How he desperate after he lost his battles and his beliefs’.

Obuba explained that his sister Lola, who changed all the perspective of life, is the destructive suicide.

Lola said that after her death in April, her painful loss decided to make the best use of every second and inspired her life to reverse her life.

Lola was the youngest of the four brothers from Nigerian parents, and Wimborne Minter grew up in Dorset.

Obuba has a 40 -year -old older brother Tolu and a 45 -year -old nun, a successful businesswoman.

His father was a rich lawyer who lived in Nigeria, 78 -year -old Fola helped to establish a local branch of the church, which he belonged to before moving to London – the rescued Christian Church.

Lola, once a former protective journalist and trained chef in a part of the Come Dine with Me, was struggling with personal demons when he hit the tragedy.

Obuba, at the same time standing up a funny and talented artist Lola, after a period of boredom after a period of ‘as a dual’ began to define as a farewell letter, he said.

Lola’s death touched the lives of many people with a group of friends who organized a monumental walk before sewing a tree as a tribute.

A funeral ceremony in Honor Oak Crematorium in South East London turned into a celebration of Lola’s mourning with colorful clothes.

Before the ceremony, paying tribute, Lola’s vocal improvisation collective wrote: ‘Lola Passion was full of creativity and too many beings.

“ They were both curious and interested in the world and they were discovering their best version by saying their essence and essence.

Ore and his ex -wife Portia Obuba joined London Fashion Week in 2019 – they married nine years before they were divided

‘Some of us have enjoyed singing with Lola in London and Southampton last year, and I’m sure many of us remember their bright smiles and their strong, generous voices and souls.’

But they added: ‘Lola’s family shared that Lola was also spent to struggle to understand who they were and why they were, and that in the last five years, they have united with a series of difficult life events that fight daily emotional, psychological and eventually many physical turmoil.

Ultimately, Lola decided that they could not fight these daily wars and chose to find peace in death.

‘Lola’s family shared their facts and shared them who they were – in life and death. The more we say their names, the more they can live through us. ‘

Obuba to pay his tribute last month, ‘I was not ready to lose my sister.

Since then, every day with me. My sister told us in a farewell letter, not a duo. Since then they have been with me every day, and what my sister has chosen to find a peace in the death they could not find in life; This was the power. It was courage and that was brave. ‘

He continued: ‘And when he passed through the last four or five years of his lives, in fact, when my sister had made more than 32 previous lives in the real five years of their lives and made a decision that they could not continue to live in this world, they heard their physical and emotional struggle.

‘What they have done for all of us in the last weeks, this gave me the power every day, and now my responsibility is to carry this legacy because nothing is difficult compared to my sister’s living.’

While he talked about how Lola’s death changes the view of life, Obuba added: ‘We don’t know when the last day is, and there is no time, there is no time, so I will benefit from every second I left.

“ I can’t say enough when you pass something that puts life on the perspective – your whole appearance changes.

‘None of this is important, but before it is too late, you can wrestle the important thing, so that’s what I do now.’

Cevher Obuba, the most watched final in the history of the program, dancing tightly with a waltz with a glitterball cup, raised the world.

Obuba had previously revealed the late Lola, who was defined as non -duals using them/pronouns in the last years of their lives that ended in April.

On Instagram, Ore – He left his wife Portia in October – discussed the meaning of the flag of the rainbow in his brother’s life and death and biography

In August, OBUBA paid more praise to Lola in his latest social media mission.

The TV server wrote on his long Instagram post: ‘Many people ask the rainbow in my biography. Some will say that I don’t have to explain myself (and they will be right), but in this case I am happy to share my cause. Maybe not you don’t think.

“ I mentioned earlier, the longer you can withstand a storm, if you are closer to your rainbow.

‘I am very happy to grow up in my life as a really hard, stormy period. The colors of my rainbow seem very bright today.’

“As I lost my sister in April, the symbol of a rainbow brought me closer to them when I needed it desperately.

“ My sister was very proud of black and proudly queer. Absolutely me and a symbol for many friends and family. In the last year of their lives, they were defined as non -duals. My pride for them does not know boundaries.

“ Although he made a lot of life in his last years, my sister spent most of their lives for shame and humiliation.

“ In many ways, my sister’s death gave me a gift of life.

‘After realizing that I had lived most of my life for the attention of others, I frequently pressed my authentic self, my sister called me to wake up to live my life completely and express myself heartily.’

Obuba said to address his own sexuality: ‘I’m gay because someone asked me yesterday on Instagram. No, not traditional or sexual. ‘

‘But’, without guessing whether any decision perceives me, without guessing whether or not to be happy, shameless, hiding, a new, real version to reveal my old self, ‘he said.

He continued Lola because he taught Lola how to live his authentic self without deciding.

In 2015, he married two young children Roma, Seven and Gene, Ore and Portia, who shared the quartet at the University of Loughborough in 2010, five years after he met

He said: ‘My sister taught me a lot about the Queer community.

“ Felt like a stranger, the other and the difference of the other and misunderstanding was the only place they felt they really belonged to.

I understand that now. I miss you so much, Lola, but how lucky I am to feel you with me, I guide me every day. ‘

In July, Obuba explained how he suffered therapy and said, ‘He suffered from addiction throughout my life’.

He said that he had lived with him that he lived quietly, secretly, but for more than a year.

Since his nine -year marriage has been over last October, his life seems to have gone in a different direction from his wife Portia.

The couple met in 2010 while studying at the University of Loughborough. Five years later, Tunbridge Wells, the node of Portia’s hometown, went to a church in a village outside the city.

Obuba’s success has definitely arrived the next year and has two children – his son novel, seven and his daughter Geneie, three.

In August he opened the division and said ‘a really difficult year’ he said: ‘There was a big family change, my wife and I left 12 months ago, and the life I grew up and the life I grew up are completely different.

‘There is no similarity in the body other than me, and I think I found myself on the way’ I should find a way out of this’ and was absolutely painful, absolutely confusing.

“My life was rising with smoke in front of my eyes and I didn’t know what to do.”

The couple sold their semi -detached houses with a 935,000 £ £ 935,000 in Tonbridge while entering their separate ways.

While Obuba opens up about the deep changes in his life, Portia, a singer in the Punk rock band of his father Nick ‘Animal’ Culmer ‘s Punk Rock Group Anti -nowbere League, continues his daily tasks as a single mother.

In one of the latest posts, Portia talked about enduring a stressful week with the start of the new academic year, and Genie was shot with tonsilites.

After a forking £ 13,99 champagne opened a bottle after opening a bottle: ‘What I experience is one of the most stressful things you can experience – to torment daily, look at children and to be present.

‘Sometimes it seems to be constantly purifying water, and sometimes just’ Oh my God. I can’t do this anymore. I finished ‘. It takes you down a little down. I am really a positive person but… ‘

“I’m not the first – it won’t be the last. He’s texting me to share many cute people stories and tell me what they’re going through. ‘

And 50,000 followers assurance to Portia: ‘I’m fine. I am good. ‘

Portia also said that the family is a great support, including 33 -year -old Sister Oona and 60 -year -old Sophie.

Sophie from OBUBA at the home of £ 1.7 million in Tunbridge Wells, Sophie said to Daily Mail: ‘As we are worried, she might find her real self. ‘

He refused to enter into details about his daughter’s struggles: ‘This is a wall of silence by us – he is an honorable.’

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