Happiness researcher shares his ’90-second rule’ to live a better, more fulfilled life
Mo Gawdat’s son Ali was 21 years old when he died due to medical negligence during a routine additional surgery in 2014.
Gawdat is ruined, confused and tangible in the case of shock. Then it started after 17 days Writing book How happy he will be in honor of his son.
Gawdat investigated the science of happiness For more than 20 years of a logical and philosophical prospective using flow schedules and formulas to reach the root of irrationality. Some time ago, he learned a habit that could help you find joy and satisfaction almost instantly.
This is called the 90 -second rule, Gawdat said “High Performance”. podcast When there is anger or annoying in your life on June 17, give yourself a minute and 30 seconds to worry. Then choose to focus on other things.
The habit is based on what Gawdat has learned from the Harvard Jill Bolte Taylor, which is found that the washing of anger hormones such as stress and cortisol and adrenaline from the body only lasts 90 seconds.
“But then what will happen, you run the thought again in your mind and you are renewing 90 seconds, GAwdat said Gawdat, who serves as the chief business officer in Google X in the company’s innovation laboratory. “From 2015 to 2018. [which] ‘Now, what am I going to do?’
For example, it can be really anxious to be cut during driving. You can yell or damn behind the steering wheel, and even roll your window down to give the other driver a part of your mind. However, rumination about the situation does not change what it is when you come to the office when you come to the office. Well, if you took a deep breath, if you opened your favorite song and sang it instead?
Gawdat asks himself three questions to heal faster than the sorrows of life:
- Is it true?
- Can I do something about it?
- Can I accept it despite its presence and can do something?
“Ninety percent of things that make us unhappy are not true. [partner] Saying something hurtful … Your brain tells you [they] Don’t love you anymore, “Gawdat said.” That’s not true. “
If your answer to Question 1 is “No”, leave. If “yes”, go to question 2 and do the same again. He said, if there is something you can do about it. If not, “stable acceptance” – so accept what is and accept the new normal.
Especially when you feel emotional, it can be difficult to create new habits. One 2009Psychology researcher Phillippa Lally found that creating a habit depending on the person and its conditions could be anywhere between 18 and 254 days.
However, Gawdat says it is the first step to be happier and more satisfied to how you react to the challenging moments in life.
“Life doesn’t give anything about you,” Simon Sinek said. podcast It puts you in good and bad situations on June 24 and allows you to find the rest. “Your choice, how you react to each … It is your choice to adjust your expectations in a realistic way.”
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