How to deal with ‘energy-vampires’

Do you have an energy vampire in your life?

This is not a supernatural entity that requires blood; Energy-vampires refer to friends who conquer your energy when you spend time with them.

These people can complain a lot, only talk about themselves, and they don’t show you a real interest in you or your life.

So how do you see them?

According to Psychologist and writer Suzy Reading, common signs are needed to pay attention and assurance.

In addition, they can slowly break down your moods through retracted compliments or by pressure to be optimistic that does not allow you to express how you really feel.

Writer and journalist Radhika Sanghani says how you feel after meeting such people.

“I got away and thought, it doesn’t work, it’s really ejaculated, and I can see they are, they are not mine.”

This is a problem you fight, and that’s three ways to overcome it.

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Many people may not realize how their behavior affects you.

It could be a strange conversation, but it can be very effective to talk and tell them how you feel it directly.

“There are many examples of these feedback and ruthless examples that people have been given this feedback. Says.

This kind of honesty can help you maintain a friendship.

Radhika: “When hanging out, I don’t really feel that there are many places for me. I don’t feel I hear. I don’t really ask any questions.”

If he’s a real friends, they’ll listen to what you say and ignore what you say.

“If they deny it instantly or make defenses, it shows that there is no one I want in my life for me, or he says.

If your friend does not desire to change his behavior and cannot save yourself from each other’s lives, it is important to put clear limits to protect yourself.

This can be by cutting the time you spend with them or by setting the rules when you are with them.

“Be clear about what is good and what is not good.

Suzy, “For example,” let’s not send eternal messages “or ‘we will not talk about our emotional lives’ you can say.

It can also help change what you do when you spend time together. Normally go out to eat together and chat or if you have normal coffees, try a different activity.

Suzy, “Why don’t you go for a walk together? Why don’t you exercise together, so you still don’t meet your needs? This is just looking for tendency to rule everything.”

After meeting a friend, pay attention to how you feel.

“If you had a social encounter, think: was it +2? Did you feel removed? Was it zero? Or –2?

You may have a different tolerance to someone else, so you need to rely on your own decision as to whether you will start limiting your time with them.

And if he feels irreparable, Radhika says you shouldn’t be afraid to look for time in a relationship.

“In some cases, if easy enough, especially if someone I have just met, I will withdraw.”