The 6 types of man who will never cheat on you: TRACEY COX reveals the subtle clues that show he’ll stay faithful – and being close to his mother is one of them

You can’t make a relationship relationship-proof, but you can definitely reduce your chances.

Research shows that choosing the right person in the first place is the most important factor in infidelity.

But how do you really know if one is a good bet?

It’s obvious that there are some things to stay away from (the guy openly staring at other women while out) but are there more subtle signs that can tell you if he’s likely to be faithful?

Fortunately, the answer is yes; Here are six of them.

He sees his mother a lot

First, the time commitment to regular visits and responsibilities leaves little room for the need for unpaid, undisclosed hours of work.

Second, there is an extra person to answer to. Not only does he have to lie to you, he has to lie to her too.

Mothers are very perceptive about their sons, and if they raise him to behave properly, he can notice changes in behavior and unexplained absences faster than you can.

Seeing his mother a lot shows that he values ​​his family and takes responsibility for the people he loves: he has a strong sense of loyalty and duty.

Finally – and this is a good thing – if he is close to his mother, he is likely to respect women as people, not just sexual objects.

He is as desirable as you

It sounds counterintuitive, but if he’s punching above his weight when dating you, he’s MORE likely to cheat, not less.

You don’t need to be physically matched, but you should both feel like you’re getting along well with what you bring to the relationship (wealth, power, intelligence, humor, etc.).

If your partner doesn’t believe they deserve you, they will feel insecure. Insecurity causes him to seek proof that he is desirable, and wanting the ego to be bolstered is the primary driving force behind many events.

The unequal balance of power leads to low self-esteem, which makes him susceptible to flattery. Any woman who shows interest in him and makes him feel attractive attracts his attention because he rarely feels that way.

It’s not uncommon for men in this situation to sabotage their relationships (why not cheat if they have to break up anyway) or to feel resentful and sneakily cheat to even the score in private.

He’s the same person as everyone else

What if you suddenly saw your partner at a bar with his friends, without knowing you were there? Will he be chatting with his friends… or will he be chatting with single women? If his friends see a different side to him than the one he shows you, that’s a bright red flag.

The version of your partner you see should be the same version everyone else sees. If so, no mask. He is who you think he is.

He has long-term male friendships and his friends really like him

First, a caveat: We are the company we keep. If you can’t stand his close friends, get away immediately. But if you all continue; Friends are a treasure trove of knowledge.

If they’ve known him since school, they’ll have a pretty good idea of ​​the kind of guy he is.

It’s not just women talking, men talk too, and cheating men usually like to brag about it.

If their friends are well-intentioned and like you, be wary of subtle warnings. Or not so thin. I remember meeting a new boyfriend’s friends at a party early in the relationship and saying to his best friend: ‘Wow! Charlie really wants this. It’s only 21:00 and he’s already drunk!’

My friend looked me in the eye and said: ‘He was always struggling with alcohol. ‘Are you sure you want to take this on?’

Charlie was a raging alcoholic and that man saved me from a lot of heartache.

If he’s a good guy, his friends will sing your praises about him. If they’re not, there’s a reason.

He has a very consuming hobby

A man obsessed with his hobby, whether it is restoring old furniture, golf or triathlon training, has no room for a double life.

Things take a lot of effort: Living a double life takes time and a lot of planning. If he prefers to spend his free time tinkering in his garage or gym, he will be unlikely to get caught up in something that will take him away from what he loves.

It would even be better if this hobby consumes all the spare money you have. Hotel rooms, restaurants, souvenirs – things are expensive. A man who watches his cash flow will do the math and give up.

He lost everything by cheating in the past

The saying ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’ is true; unless something dramatic and drastic happens to cause him to change his ways.

A man who has lost everything to infidelity – the wife he loves (people who love their spouses also cheat), their children, the family home, and the respect of everyone – knows the price of cheating when caught.

It’s devastating to realize that you’ve sacrificed everything that’s important to you for a few weeks of hot sex.

So this guy might be a safer bet than someone who has never cheated.

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