I’m looking for a WIFE, says Christine McGuinness, Paddy’s ‘five-star lesbian’ ex three years after their ‘toxic’ divorce

Paddy McGuinness’ ex-wife Christine has revealed that she is looking for a ‘wife’ three years after their divorce.

In a new interview on the LGBTQ+ gay podcast It started with a kissThe 38-year-old mother-of-three, who has dated both men and women, branded herself a ‘five-star lesbian’ as she opened up about her sexuality, sex life and love of ‘Japanese bondage’.

He told gay icons Amy Spalding and Gareth Valentino: ‘I would love to have a wife one day, not like a legalized marriage, but like a blessing, a celebration of love and all that, just to say ‘this is my wife’.’

‘[The double life] It’s ideal for me because I don’t want to involve someone in my personal life too quickly. I love separate life. ‘There’s my family, my kids, my home, and then I come to London, I get off that train, I can work, I can have fun, I can sleep and I don’t have to worry about everything.’

Christine added: ‘I love the double life! And it became a problem because eventually it got to the point where, frankly, I’m quite happy with it and then my woman leaves…

‘[When] Will I meet the kids? And “are we going to do this forever?” And I’m thinking: “Okay, I thought I told you at the beginning that this wasn’t going to change anytime soon.”

Christine was married to TV presenter Paddy McGuinness, 52, for 11 years before splitting for good in 2022; They have three children together

Christine opened up about her sexuality, sex life and love of ‘Japanese bondage’ in a new podcast featuring gay icons Amy Spalding and Gareth Valentino

‘I feel like I’m always the one sticking to the plan. This was something that happened to all the women I dated. I will always let them know my situation.’

Christine was married to Paddy from 2004 to 2011, and while she is happily parenting their three children, she makes it clear that she doesn’t want any more children.

‘I make sure this is known at all times.’ he said. ‘And I don’t want kids anymore because most of the women I meet usually don’t have kids and they want kids, whereas I have had kids.

‘So this is something I try to be honest with everyone I talk to initially.’

Christine got very personal during the interview and said she would only use new sex toys in the bedroom, fresh out of plastic.

He said: ‘I am very serious. And I said, “Wait, no, because you might be a Gold Star Lesbian, but I’m a Five Star Lesbian.”

Gold Star Lesbian is a slang term for lesbians who have never had sexual or romantic experience with men.

He continued: ‘I’ll tell you about this one date, I mean, it wasn’t a date, it was when I did the whole hotel thing, not the whole date thing.

‘Cause I didn’t want to just meet someone and it was just sex, but then I found myself in a place in life where, you know what? I actually want to do it because I’ve been married, I’ve had situations, I’ve been single, I’ve been single for six months and through all of that, I just had a moment where, you know what, I wouldn’t mind just meeting someone and seeing how it goes.

He told the podcast: ‘I would love to have a wife one day, not like a legalized marriage, but like a blessing, a celebration of love and all that, just to say ‘this is my wife’.’

Christine recalled her first kiss with a woman after splitting from Paddy, saying: ‘I remember the first kiss being very soft, very nice and very feminine.’

‘So I come to this hotel and I think it’s just sex, that’s okay. And she was so, so beautiful, like this perfect, beautiful, handsome, masculine type woman, really gorgeous, dark skinned, like she had it all.

‘And we didn’t get straight to the point, but it was late, we went to the bedroom, sat down, she takes out her things, her accessories.

‘She’s talking to me while I’m wearing this, she’s showing it to me, we’re just chatting and she said she’s a Gold Star Lesbian. I love this too, I love a Gold Star Lesbian.

‘I think everyone has it to themselves and everything… So I was the one who gave evening and morning and kept myself to myself.’

She added: ‘But it happens all the time and I’m always so surprised, especially when it comes to a masculine woman. I always expect it to be the opposite, but it never does. ‘I will always do the most and they are a pillow princess.’

Christine mentioned She talks about making exclusive content on adult content platform Subs and why she enjoys taking part in Japanese bondage Shibari.

Shibari is an art form that uses string to create intricate patterns on the body, emphasizing trust, communication and emotional bonding between partners.

He said: ‘Lately I’ve been thinking, okay, now this is great and I love it, but I’m also very self-aware and I think I love a bit of a power trip there. I’ll never be a pillow princess anymore, but I absolutely love receiving them.’

Talking more about Shibari he said:’Yes! Very good! I was doing this, it wasn’t really about being sexual, it was more about the feeling of letting go, allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

‘So that was part of me getting to know myself after my divorce and then dating women and realizing that I loved being more dominant with women and wanting to be in control.

‘That’s why I went to Shibari because the bonding part is to see if you’re happy to be vulnerable and let go. Let someone else tie you down. It’s not like they’re going to do anything. This is more important to you… is this okay with you?

‘And in a way, at the end of this, you’ll find out whether you’re the one who wants to do it all or the one who doesn’t.

‘And there’s no right or wrong. But for me it was pretty much like 50/50. I want to do both… I want to tie you up and I want you to tie me up. I want both. That’s what I’m learning.’

Christine explained her pre-date rituals: ‘Masturbate before a date if you don’t want to… (laughs). It’s like rule number one if you want to keep yourself in check.

‘I’m not judging but if you want to like a lady and you don’t want to be too hasty about it, listen now, if that’s what you want and that’s what you’re there for, go for it.

‘But this will be preparation number one. And then I think it’s really good to prepare the room. ‘I like getting the room ready.’

‘Just hugging, talking, chatting, getting to know each other, all of that. And I usually buy great underwear. I love starting everything new. I like to have new things, new dress, new bag, new shoes. ‘Yes, because this is something new for me, a new experience, so I’m going to do it.’

Christine has previously said that she and Paddy are rarely in the house they share at the same time and that she feels they will remain there in the future.

He said: ‘W‘I know it’s going to take some time because we’ve got kids, we’re back home, we’re both checking the reality that we can’t move in with anyone yet.’

He admitted that now that they’re amicable exes, they sometimes even show each other pictures of women they dated.

Christine was diagnosed with autism in 2021 when she was 33 and her children, twins Leo and Penelope, 12, and daughter Felicity, 9, are autistic and both Christine and Paddy want their children to have stability at home.

He said: ‘We are very lucky, we live in a beautiful, big house and it works. I don’t want to move my children elsewhere.

‘I think for both of us, if it ever progresses into a relationship and then they want to live with you or something, that would happen pretty quickly.

‘[Paddy and I] We will talk, we will laugh, we will not go into details of anything. For example, most of our conversations focus on children.

Christine labels herself ‘being in a situation’

‘So to me a status relationship is like when you want to date someone but you’re not exactly in a relationship.’

‘I’ve dabbled with people in the industry… And I’m really trying to think about what works best.

‘I like that the people who aren’t involved in it usually do a little bit more, they’re happy to take things slow and understand that you know I don’t want to put you on Instagram the next day because of my job and other things.

‘So that’s usually pretty nice. But I tend to meet people at events and stuff. ‘I’ve been pretty lucky to be around a lot of gay, bisexual, pan you know people… And I guess I’ve never been too serious with anyone in the industry, it’s always been more of a fun, fling kind of thing.’

Christine also described her first kiss with a woman after Paddy, saying: ‘I remember the first kiss being very soft, very nice and very feminine.’

‘When I think of the first time I kissed a woman again after my husband and did not disrespect her, it had been a long time and I remember that first kiss was so soft, so sweet, so feminine and truly fair…

‘Oh, I got goosebumps because I melted into it and I thought, oh, thank God, it’s like I still… I knew I felt it all the time and it wasn’t something I was worried about never doing again because when I got married, I was married for life, really.

‘But I was really happy to do it again. I’m really happy to be dating women again now and having fun. ‘I have some of the best stories, some of the wildest memories, the craziest experiences that only I and one other person will ever know.’

Christine was asked how she feels about dating as a neurodivergent person.

He said: ‘It’s very difficult because you don’t know how it’s going to go. And I think for most people, when you’re not sure what the outcome is going to be, you get this kind of nervous excitement.

But when you are neurodivergent, then these emotions can become quite confused and confused. When I first started dating, I canceled a lot of things.

‘For the most part, they seemed like people I already knew I was comfortable with. So it’s like friendship vibes where you blur those lines. I liken it to a sexual friendship rather than a relationship.’

He concluded: ‘I love being intimate, I love passion, I love being sexual. Yeah, I’m very open-minded and again, this is something that I’ve had to navigate for the first time because in adolescence, everyone is a little bit free and stuff.

‘Then I was in quarantine for 15 years for marriage and doing nothing, then now I can do whatever I want and I’m trying to figure out who is as open as you. It’s been a journey so far. ‘It was really fun.’

It Started with a Kiss is now on YouTube on all podcast platforms.