Woman leaves little to the imagination with comment to son

Dear Abby: My wife and I are disgusted by something we (and our grandchild) have never encountered before. Our former daughter-in-law of 10 years recently told our 16-year-old grandson that she kicked out her last boyfriend because he wouldn’t have sex with her. Our grandson was very upset (like us). Isn’t this considered a form of abuse?

Our grandson and his brother have not lived with their mother for the last five years because they are tired of her smoking, drinking, and the revolving door of boyfriends. They live happily with their father and have little to do with their mother.

– Disgusted in Colorado

Dear Disgust: Your grandchild is a teenager; He’s not 8 years old. He said it was surprising what his mother did to him, but he said it wasn’t “abuse.” Could he have been drunk when he said this? Fortunately, your grandson no longer lives under his roof and has a father with better judgment. Count your blessings and let this pass.

Dear Abby: My boyfriend always carries his keys and various metal accessories on a carabiner that attaches to his belt loop. He lives in my house and is a frequent passenger in my car. When leaving and entering the house, I noticed that the key clip and other items were damaging the paint of my car and the door frames at home. I asked him to please remove the clip or make another arrangement for his keys, but nothing changes even though he says he’s “working on the problem”. I am prepared to deny entry to this key beast. Recommendation?

– Dinged in Ohio

Mr Dinged: Just that. Your irresponsible boyfriend doesn’t seem to have any respect for other people’s property, otherwise he would have dealt with this situation immediately. Estimate the cost of replacing your car and door frames, and then offer him the opportunity to pay off what he owes you or tell him it’s time to move.

Dear Abby: Even though we say we love each other at work, one of our coworkers doesn’t want to be closer friends. We want to take the friendship to a deeper level but he’s hesitant when we try to hang out outside of work. He has a mansion that many people in our office have seen, but he did not invite us. He will just go to the movies with us. We are worried because we cannot talk to him in the cinema. Are we getting mixed messages or are we coming on too strong?

— Working girls in Michigan

Dear Girls: You are coming very strong. There are business relationships and personal relationships. They are not always interchangeable. The woman may “love” working with you. But it’s a mistake to assume that it’s okay to pressure her to invite you to her home or to interrogate her about her private life. You may have good intentions, but you girls have to accept the relationship as it is.

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This article was first published in The Detroit News: Dear Abby: Woman leaves little to the imagination when commenting on son